Love’s Refraction: Jealousy and Compersion in Queer Women’s Polyamorous Relationships

By Jillian Deri Popular wisdom might suggest that jealousy is an inevitable outcome of non-monogamous relationships. In Love’s Refraction, Jillian Deri explores the distinctive question of how and why polyamorists – people who practice consensual non-monogamy – manage jealousy. Her focus is on the polyamorist concept of “compersion” – taking Read more…

The Cabinet of Dark Things

By China Hamilton These superb, painterly photographs explore the dark side of the sexual arena. Here de Sades’ philosophy encounters essential 21st century BDSM; dripping lust meets sweet agony. China Hamilton’s masterful black and white photography captures a shadowy world apart and perhaps timid readers should think twice before ordering.

Advocate Advisor

By Patrick Califia-Rice Editorial Reviews From Library Journal Lesbians and gay men have often felt ignored by traditional advice columnists like “Dear Abby,” “Ann Landers,” or “Miss Manners.” Fortunately the national gay/lesbian weekly The Advocate offered an advice column, “The Advocate Adviser,” for them ten years ago. This book collects Read more…

Learning Good Consent

By Cindy Crabb Curated by Doris editor Cindy Crabb, Learning Good Consent looks at the culture of sexual consent from a standpoint both sexy and educational. Over the course of 46 pages, Cindy and friends create a well-rounded consent workshop, with all sites set on healing and helping. In a Read more…

Conflict is Not Abuse

By Sarah Schulman From intimate relationships to global politics, Sarah Schulman observes a continuum: that inflated accusations of harm are used to avoid accountability. Illuminating the difference between Conflict and Abuse, Schulman directly addresses our contemporary culture of scapegoating. This deep, brave, and bold work reveals how punishment replaces personal Read more…

Spanking for Lovers

By Janet W. Hardy Consensual adult spanking can be sexy or strict, giggly or grave, gentle enough to pinken the skin or intense enough to leave marks. It can involve infinite combinations of roles, implements and positions – enough to keep even the most avid spankophile busy for a lifetime. Read more…